As lawyers, we are taught to ask questions.
Lots of questions.
That’s how you discover the facts, the evidence, the argument…
Crafting the perfect cross-examination can be the key to winning or losing.
Questions are an important part of telling the story of a case. They can change the focus, and even how the evidence is viewed.
As lawyers, we know this.
But as humans, we don’t always apply the same careful framework and effort to the questions we ask ourselves day to day…
Because the questions you ask yourself – the way you frame the conversation – will control the way you tell your own story, where your energy is directed, and ultimately, shape the way your life unfolds.
Questions that positively change the focus from a negative to a positive space can be very powerful tools.
Want to be more successful in any area of your life?
Ask better questions.
Example: I’ll bet you’ve asked yourself one or more (or all) of the following questions at some point (I know I have):
- Why did this happen to me?
- Why does this always happen?
- Why do I wake up every day tired and drained?
- How can I just keep my head above water…getting by?
- How come I can never lose weight or save money?
These are disempowering questions that when asked, actually make us FEEL disempowered.
How did you feel even reading them?
Now try asking yourself these questions instead:
- What do I love about my life right now?
- What am I grateful for?
- What am I could I really be excited about right now?
- What am I really proud about accomplishing?
- What do I really want to do with my life?
How does that feel?
You might notice an immediate mood boost, or a feeling of being inspired.
That’s because asking disempowering questions will trigger your brain and emotional body to make you feel defeated; but asking better questions can change the focus, emotion and energy to a positive space, positioning you for receiving.
Ask and You Shall Receive.
This practice puts you one step closer to becoming a master of your own life, and is a common habit of highly successful people.
Today, I challenge you to change the conversation in your head by creating more powerful questions.
Instead of asking, “Why am I so stuck, so uninspired?”
ask, “What do I really want to do with my life”?
These questions empower and inspire us to find and create our purpose, and our joy.
Own the power of your questions,
Lexlee
